I’m so used to seeing people use the “scare them to help them” method to get rid of hiccups, that it’s starting to bother me. Anyway, the method I use is something I read online a while ago, and it doesn’t require getting scared in the process.
The idea can basically be summed up in the image below.
The key lies in holding your breath, which is enough of a scare to your human body. You may need to repeat it until it goes away. What may also help is gulping cold water.
What I find effective is to inhale through the nose, swallow saliva three times (without exhaling or breathing), then exhale through the mouth. This may be repeated if it didn’t work the first time.
Anyway, drinking cold water helps to stop the irritation caused in the diaphragm by numerous factors, including eating or drinking too quickly or too much, and reduces the number of spasms occurring.
The quickest way I found is similar to what I previously stated above.
I find this works best. That way, you won’t have to struggle with hiccups right before a meeting or an important event, since these simple yet unexpected issues tend to pop up out of nowhere when you’re already dealing with something more important.
Allow yourself to grieve. Almost everyone has experienced at least one thing that made our hearts feel like it’s being shredded and torn to pieces, ripped apart and thrown away.
This usually throws us into the terrible abyss of depression and misery. Coping with it is hard, but sometimes the only thing we can do about it, is accept that it has happened.
Personally, when I went through depression after the death of very close family members as well as other stressful events that simply poured over my head and became a burden on my shoulders, I mostly struggled alone. I know a lot of people have it worse, but I too am allowed to feel pain. I lost hope for any bright, positive, happy future and eventually grew to become apathetic. You basically cry so much until you can’t cry anymore. And as you were struggling with your mind and unwanted emotions, you watched everyone else simply carry on with their lives.
The only one who saved me from my agony, was God. I know not everyone may be religious and some may simply roll their eyes at that sentence, but for me, He was all I had, and all I will ever need. But if you want to get to the source of your existence and explore the reason why everything that’s happening in your life even exists, then it’s only natural to think of the origin of anything and everything. I prayed to Him and found peace, inner peace. Because of Him, I know that I’m never truly alone and that He is always listening and taking care of us, despite the pain we may feel. He listens to us and has created us, He created those we love, and when you really think about it, anyone we have ever loved never really leaves us. They become a part of us, because when something or someone becomes so important to us, they have automatically affected us in some way, and without that love we have for them, then our lives wouldn’t be the same. We wouldn’t be the same.
I believe any sad or grieving person should allow themselves to grieve. Allow yourself to cry. If we don’t let our hearts and minds feel that agonizing pain in some way and instead constantly try to avoid dealing with it and ignoring it, knowing that it exists in your heart but you refuse to acknowledge it, then it may come forth in uglier ways in the future. You could start a journal and express your thoughts and painful feelings. You could paint and draw or do whatever you feel would help those feelings be acknowledged. No one has to see it. What’s important is that you take care of yourself and allow the current pain to escape you. Let some of it escape you as it takes the form of tears, words, drops of paint, and silent screams.
Forgetting isn’t really an option, but accepting reality is. But just because we’re physically separated from our loved ones, doesn’t mean we’re separated spiritually. As long as you love someone, then that person will stay with you forever. They will stay in your heart, mind, and soul. They become a part of you, and for that reason, they will always be with you forever. So if you’d like, write a letter to them. Write a whole entire book dedicated to them. Death does not mean someone has ceased to exist. Your loved one still exists, despite the different forms they may have taken.
At funerals, I’m surprised how much I hear the words “don’t cry.” According to research, crying helps to release stress, so realistically if you don’t want me to cry, then you’re just telling me to stay stressed out. Many years may pass by and you might still cry every now and then, maybe even all the time. Each person deals with it differently. Some people may even try to tell you to forget about them, which really is a strange thing to say. A person doesn’t simply “forget” about someone who basically lives in their heart. Being told that sentence may feel similar to someone telling you to forget yourself and your whole entire past and life, which of course, isn’t going to happen. Not on my watch. I personally feel that when you allow yourself to think about them more often and let your mind believe that everything is alright, because clearly their soul still exists and they are officially a part of your life and forever will be, you start to relax once again and carry on knowing that everyone and everything important to you is always with you and you’re never really alone, never really without them. We all have the same Creator and that fact itself, is a beautiful thing. Indeed we belong to God, and indeed to Him we shall return.
Just remember that at some point in existence, there was a time of your happiness and joyful memories that will forever exist in the fabric of time and space.
I see many people get confused whether to say either of these phrases in a sentence. I was told a quick piece of advice in one of my classes that I’ll share with you.
Remove everything connected with “and” apart from “I” or “me” and see how the sentence sounds. As remove the other subject or object.
Let’s see some examples. Which is correct: 1. My wife and I went to the company. Or is it: 2. Me and my wife went to the company. By removing the other subject, which is “my wife”, the sentences becomes as follows: 1. I went to the company. And 2. Me went to the company. Here we can conclude that the first sentence is correct.
Now putting it at the end of the sentence: 1. He gave presents to me and my kids. And 2. He gave presents to my kids and I. Most people assume that saying “someone else and I” is automatically correct and that the word “me” sounds informal. That isn’t correct. Following the rule previously mentioned, let’s filter the new sentences: 1. He gave presents to me. And 2. He gave presents to I. Once again we can see which one is obviously correct and clearly wrong. The first sentence is correct.
There are 2 rules that people usually forget or aren’t aware of. The phrase “someone (subject) and I” is usually how sentences should begin, when “I” is put together with a subject at the beginning of the sentence. The second rule is that at the end of a sentence, where you, as using the word “me” becomes an object, it becomes “someone (object) and me”.
So usually “I” is used at the beginning of the sentence and “me” is used at the end of the sentence.
The first tip I stated is used for any case that you forget about the 2 rules that I just mentioned. I’ll repeat that first tip again:
Remove everything connected with “and” apart from “I” or “me” and see how the sentence sounds. As remove the other subject or object.
It simply depends on whether “I” or “me” is being used as a “subjective pronoun” or “objective pronoun”.
I’ve noticed many people when learning Arabic tend to speak to the public in a formal dialect, as in the written form. To become fluent in Arabic, you must understand both written (formal writing-فصحة) and spoken (informal speaking-عامة). When reading and writing, the formal writing is used (unless it’s amongst your close friends then you’re free to write however you want, though writing formally to your friends about something really casual would basically seem sarcastic), but speaking depends on who you’re speaking to and where. Usually when speaking to anyone, informal/casual (عامة) speaking is used (though make sure you keep it polite, as you would when learning any other language). Also when speaking to someone older than you, make sure not to be too casual like when speaking to friends (this mostly applies to all languages), it’s better to be more polite; also, never call an elder by their first name, it’s considered very rude. That’s similar to calling your parents by their first name, which of course, is rude. Japan and China share this name rule as well, being respectful and not calling elders by their first name. Usually we call an unknown elder man, when speaking to them: (عَمّو=uncle), another word you might hear is:(يا عم/it’s a more ambiguous form of ‘uncle’), but depending on how you say it, it might come out a bit rude, so it’s best to use the first one. This form of the word uncle means the uncle from the father’s side of the family, as your father’s brother, because the word for uncle from the mother’s side of the family is (خالو/يا خال), which is only used if he’s your real uncle from your mother’s side of the family. So the word (عمو) is used for your uncle from your father’s side of the family and for a stranger who is an older man. If speaking to an elder woman (not around your age, because calling them this would seem weird) then we use the word (خالتو=aunt) which means aunt from the mother’s side of the family. The word for “aunt” from the father’s side of the family is “عمتو” but you don’t call a woman who isn’t directly related to you that, because it’s only used for your real aunts from the father’s side. Calling them “خالتو” is more respectful, because using “عمتو” would be like stating that a female stranger is related to your father, which would be a bit strange and would probably seem like you called her that by accident.
Anyway, speaking formal Arabic in public is usually used for poems and speeches, or something that requires that formality, also it could be used in old, traditional, or religious shows. Some other Arabic-speaking countries may also speak formally, but that all depends on the people and country, so make sure to do some research about that. Also most places, including Lebanon, have their own dialect, just like in the United States. We mostly all understand eachother, but the way they pronounce something may be slightly different from how you would say it. It may be different, but that doesn’t mean it’s not correct as well. It’s personal and usually depends on the environment of your upbringing.
I’ll continue with what you call an older man (the age of your grandfather) and older woman (the age of your grandmother). You would call your grandfather “جدّو” which sounds like “jeddo” in English. You can call this to an older man, but only if he’s much older, so in general we’d usually stay using the other word “عمو”. You would call your grandmother “سِتّو” which sounds like “setto/sitto” in English or you can use the word “تاتا” which is pronounced “teta”, it all depends on your own preference and what word you’re used to. But I don’t really find myself speaking with them often, but when I do, there’s not really a reason to call them this because we’d already be talking about some topic, like when you see a stranger and say “excuse me”, you could say “excuse me, sir” but it’s not really necessary unless you really want to; so I usually keep this word for my blood-related grandmother.
I forgot to mention, for the word “aunt”, some of my friends use the word “tante” which is French. You could use that too, but Arabic is basically the go-to language in Lebanon. It’s normal to hear random French words though, and that’s one of them. A reason for that is mostly due to the French colonization of Lebanon in the past. Both English and French are used alot in Lebanon, besides Arabic, but the locals mostly speak Arabic with eachother and usually understand either English, French, some of each, or both together.
When speaking to a guy around your age, if you have to speak to him, you usually say “يا خيي” which means “my brother”. If speaking to a girl, you’d use the word “يا إختي” which means “my sister”. Just as a note, the word “يا” means “oh”, which is usually used when calling for someone. Also, if you hear a frustrated person speaking, you might hear the term “يا عمي” which means “my uncle”, along with the phrase “يالله/yallah” usually when they’re in a hurry. The term “يالله/Yallah” is a quick way of saying “يا اللّه”/”Ya Allah” which literally translates to “Oh Allah”/”Oh God” but when said quickly amongst people as previously mentioned, it means more of something among the lines of “come on” or maybe “hurry up”. This term is used by both Christians and Muslims alike, as well as alot of other stuff we both share in common.
Also as a final topic, you might hear or read the phrase “إن شاء الله/Inshallah/In shaa Allah/Nshallah”, this literally means “if God/Allah wills” and is usually used as if saying “hopefully/I hope so/I look forward to it” or “we’ll see”; but these phrases that have God’s name (Allah) written, are usually more literal of the meaning when praying (الصلاة) or reading the Quran and Duaa (prayers/دعاء). If you’re curious or unaware of the difference between prayer (Islamically speaking) and duaa, prayer is what you may see with movements and is one of the 5 pillars of Islam, while duaa is a form of supplication to God and is a means to become closer to Him spiritually; this can also be seen in Christianity. You can see Google’s definition below.
One final thing. Be careful from the translations you might see on the internet, like tattoos saying they meaning something beautiful and amazing, when actually it’s translated wrong as a joke and falls into the unfortunate hands of someone who doesn’t know any better. If you want to get a tattoo or anything in a different language, make sure to translate it yourself, maybe through the internet or a trusted source, before getting one. Most of those posts were made as a joke, so stay aware of that.
So I hope I have helped you learn something from this. Good luck with your studies!
Ever wonder how your day could turn around? Everything is in the mindset. Something that may seem like bad news could actually be good if you know how to take advantage of it and find something positive about it, something to learn from it. Though sometimes there are topics that simply may seem too painful to deal with, so trying to see the bright side may seem difficult in this case. However, if you’d like to cope with it, try to see how that side has benefited from the situation. Understand that this pain has strengthened you and has become a door to wisdom and learning more about ourselves and existence.
Positivity is closely related to gratitude. When we think of anything we may be grateful for, no matter how small, our mind takes that into consideration. The more gratitude we show and feel, the more positive and accepting our mindset will be.
I like to think of the world as a blank canvas. If this wasn’t happening, it’d simply be empty space. But I also like to detach myself from it. Not everything needs a reaction. I personally feel more at peace when I don’t really care about any drama that may appear in front of me. That’s why usually when someone tells me something that happened, I simply accept it as a fact (of course knowing that it actually happened) instead of reacting to it. It’s now in the past. Accept it. Even if you say it just happened, that’s still in the past. The only thing I like to think of after that is how I can improve it or learn from it for now and the future. If I can’t do anything about it, then why start a soap opera for it? If you can change something about it that you really believe should be changed, then try that. If nothing is stopping you (legally, religiously, or anything related to your beliefs and convictions or principles) then by all means change it. Be my guest. But don’t let yourself suffer in the process. You are valuable, so don’t hurt yourself trying to change the past. Just listen to Rafiki, he knows.
As I have mentioned before, you eventually, on some level, become what you are surrounded with, on an energetic level. So practice gratitude, but at the same time, don’t purposely put yourself in negative situations. Some things are best left avoided or unsaid. Like that random stranger who just wants to fight with you; clearly they don’t deserve to hear any of your words if they’re not willing to listen to you in the first place. You could deeply analyze this and believe it’s your job to fix their life, but sometimes you run into people who just want problems. They want negativity and they want to get a negative reaction out of you just to take advantage of the situation to create more drama and attract attention to themselves, believing they have some power over you.
For that reason, detach yourself from their foolishness to avoid becoming one. Fools think silence is weakness, but it really is quite the opposite. But there are situations that can’t be avoided, and their arrogance really gets out of hand. If you see any signs of this, then something must be done. I believe you personally can determine whether something is as serious and severe as to create worse consequences or not. In any case, be prepared.
Though just because you chose to stand up for whatever it is you believe in, doesn’t make the fool any less of a fool, and doesn’t deter from your wisdom and courage to stand up to their tyrannical attitude. Just know how to deal with them and be patient. But understand that there is a line each and every one of us has that shouldn’t be crossed. That line is personal to each individual. That’s why, in general, you should avoid the people who try to take advantage of that. They will usually just give you a headache and more problems to deal with later on. And that’s why silence really is the only suitable response for dealing with them, just like dealing with a child who doesn’t know any better. Know that the fool does not seek to understand; that’s why when I say the word “fool”, it doesn’t just apply to someone simply because you’re angry from them. I believe most people aren’t fools, but some unfortunate people may one day run into them. They are the ones who start problems for no obvious reason and whose only goal is to drag you down to their level. But for those who simply don’t understand something and ask you about it, just answer them with what they’d like to know. Such people are seeking improvement in their knowledge, and not everyone has experienced the same things we have, so it’s only normal that they don’t understand. Like with children, their curiosity tends to make them ask alot of questions, and that’s okay and healthy for them. Just pay attention to differentiate between the fool and the curious. A fool is blind to the truth. It is he who sees it in front of him, but rejects it. One who is curious may be so for better or worse, but as long as he maintains integrity with open eyes and an open heart, he can be trusted more so than the other. But despite everything, hate no one. For hatred is a strong poisonous word that shouldn’t be thrown around so often. If it comes to the worst case, then remember that forgiveness is more beautiful than hatred and that kindness is stronger than it.
Anyway, back to positivity. I believe some of its factors include gratitude and simplicity. Through simplicity we get to focus on what we want more often and get rid of toxicity. This increases our gratitude and appreciation for the simple yet important things in life, hence encouraging our positive view to manifest and plant itself in our minds. According to the Law of Attraction, what we think, we become. Therefore we should focus on what we really want in life and recharge and redirect our minds to a brighter and more positive path than before. By solely focusing on what we want and how we want to be, we have already created a door in our minds to reach that destination. Decide how and who you want to be for the rest of your life and become that person initially in your mind, and your external life will eventually become like that as well. Of course, you can personally change your decision of what you want along the way, it all goes back to your choices.
Your mind has the ability to become what you decide for it to become. By simply reviving it after being drained by filling it with brilliant sayings and surrounding yourself with wise people, you will be on the path to a brighter and more profound life.
Gifts are a beautiful way of showing our appreciation, gratitude, and admiration for someone. I like to think ahead of time about a gift and choose something more personal with meaning. It could be your favorite book or something that the two of you have shared together. Something that may seem simple to anyone else, but when they look at it, they known that it has a deeper meaning than what it may seem.
Think of something that they really love, or something that you know they could use. It may come in different forms, and only you can personally decide what to choose.
Though gifts don’t necessarily need to be something materialistic, as the most valuable gifts in life are not. It could come in any form, and the gift of being in someone’s heart, personally, for me, is enough. In the end, no matter what you choose, it’s the thought and love you put into it for the person, that counts.